Wow that’s some bullshit?
How to be a shitty parent
how is this shitty parenting if i tell you to be home at a certain time you better be there. Shit my mom would have been out looking for me.
Right? How is this shitty at all?? If i tell you to be home at a certain time you better be there or else you aren’t allowed in the home. I care about my kids safety so much I’ll endanger them when they dont listen to me.
i do not have the energy to explain why this is a shitty thing to do but yeah it’s shit
I do! If you’re gonna be a vindictive little shit to your kids, you shouldn’t be having them. Having abusive parents like the ones up here fucked up my perception of love and affection.
I got locked out of the house all the time just like this poor kid. Do you know how fucking cold it gets at night? NO because you’re cushy and comfortable behind those decorated glass doors! I slept in 30 °F weather. I was on the swim team so I had to wake up and run with the team at 5 am then go to class. I’d wake up with frozen hair and bugs crawling on me. I’d start crying and it would rain fucking cold water. I had no friends in the neighborhood to go to. I’m still somewhat scared of the dark.
There’s wild animals and predatory strangers and shit out there. You’re gonna put your fucking CHILD in that situation and FAIL to be their guardian at one of the most important times of day just because they made it home late? Kids make fucking mistakes, and if you aren’t prepared for that, you shouldn’t even have pets. You’re not a caretaker, you’re a lazy abusive perfectionist snot. I’d kick your ass if you were my neighbor and I saw you pulling this shit! No joke!
My roommate talks all the time about how if her kids mess around she’d smack them around, but she and a LOT of other people do not understand that punishments like those are abuse. They fuck your kid up for life.
If you leave a kid out in the cold they’re more likely to get into more trouble/danger to keep warm anyway. Who’s gonna take your kid into their home? Do you even give a shit what happens to them? No because you wanted to play god and get back at someone who is still developing. Be a fucking adult.
Your kid is not a robot. It’s so shitty these parents have done this kind of stuff before and have NOT given the kid a blanket.
Neglect is the chronic inattention or omission on the part of the care giver to provide for the basic emotional and/or physical needs of the child, including food, clothing, nutrition, adequate supervision, health, hygiene, safety, medical and psychological care and education. Emotionally neglected children do not receive the necessary psychological nurturance to foster their own growth and development. The consequences of neglect can be very serious, particularly for young children. The child who does not receive adequate emotional, cognitive and physical stimulation, physical care and nutrition may experience lags in development. These lags in development may be irreversible.
SOME FORMS OF ABUSE & NEGLECT:
*Rejection, ignorance and isolation
*A lack of shelter
*Emotional neglect or lack of supervision
*Deliberate locking children out of the house
So if you think pulling this childish bullshit is ok, I will break into your house and steal whatever funds it takes to care for your child. I’ll fight you in the morning because you’re a garbage human being.
Stop teaching your damn kid they’re worthless. YOU made them.
Stop being your child’s enemy, start being their actual fucking caretaker.
It’s simple. You are being treated as an adult and given the responsibility and privilege to go out, on your own, on the condition of being home at a SPECIFIC TIME. If you cannot be home on time, call and explain your situation.
At what point are you as a person, take responsibility for you actions? Or are we supposed to excuse you for every violation?
Looking at this note the words “this time” indicate this person is a serial violator of curfew. To be brutally honest, they do not deserve the privilege of going out on their own.
The key to properly handling the situation lies in how the last statement ended. Locking a child outside at night is abusive parenting. Removing the privilege of going out again after repeated offenses is just parenting. In fact, it’s so common, it has a name. It’s called grounding. Pretty basic stuff here.
Don’t deny children basic human needs like food and shelter and try to pass it off as creative punishment. That’s just fucked up. These aren’t responsible adults here. If you take a moment to remember what being a kid was like, you’ll remember that you were likely a pretty irresponsible shit too. You wouldn’t tell them they can’t take a shit because they forgot to clean the toilet that weekend, would you? It may be humorous as an anecdote but to actually do that is cruel and unusual punishment here. You’re their parents. Act like it. You’re not their tormentor or a justice-dealing law maker. You’re their loving mothers and fathers. If they don’t come home on time, they can’t go out anymore. If they don’t clean the bathroom, they don’t get their allowance. If they don’t eat their veggies, they don’t get desert. While you have to give them their basic needs, there ain’t nothing that says you have to give them their luxuries.
And if things get REALLY bad, take away the consoles and the phones. Hit em where it hurts!